Deliberate parenting 2

Lots of things become clearer as one gets older. Real life stories shared, inspires, clarify and help one to focus on the most important things. Sometimes, the greatest stories begin in deep despair or difficulty and end in triumph and clarity. I am writing my stories from a place of triumph and clarity. So don't miss the lesson here because of pity. I am writing about emotional care, which I believe was and is more important to me than the physical essentials. And I'm going to touch a nerve on this one. When parents fight in front of kids, it is the children that suffers it all. The effect is brutal, harsh and sometimes lives the child too scared or numb to count numbers 1-10. I had a child in my class one time who was following the lessons excellently, and suddenly stopped. He couldn't spell, do simple additions and the usual things he used to do. I did everything to resuscitate him from that coma. I prayed. Used other methods. Taught him letters from scratch. Then got angry. Scolded him. Calmed myself. Talked to him. Nothing. Until one day, his mum said something, and a tear mistakenly fell...and dropped. I was mad. Raving-bloody-crying mad. She'd been crying every day at home and my boy was totally lost. I remembered me as a child, as a teenager, and as an adult, always begging my mum to be strong. I told her to be strong for my boy. I cried and begged her to be strong for my boy. You will never know the love of a child for his or her mum. Mother, one tear from you can break your daughter or son. Mother, the reason why some of your children are happy is because you are happy. I don't understand that Chemistry yet, but will let you know as soon as I understand it. Mothers, I need you to be strong. Cry all you want in your CLOSET. Come out acting tough for their sake. They are too young to handle your emotional stress. You are an adult, handle it your adult way. It makes life too complicated for their little minds. Fathers, the single greatest thing you can do for your children is to love their mother(put it down in your diary). That's what makes you a hero in your child's eye. Jesus knew this simple family love portion. The number one emotional care yesterday was: care for your child's emotion. Number two for today is, don't dump your emotional baggage on your child. Be strong for me, Mother. Joy Sampson Super teacher